NLP AND DARK PSYCHOLOGY. 9+1 NLP Techniques for Beginners and Advanced to Manipulate People by Improving Your Art of Persuasion and Body Language - ebook

NLP AND DARK PSYCHOLOGY

9+1 NLP Techniques for Beginners and Advanced to Manipulate People by Improving Your Art of Persuasion and Body Language

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INTRODUCTION

There are a lot of great things about NLP, but many people have a lot of misconceptions that come with NLP. Some people, even within the field of psychology, are against NLP and think that it is a bad thing. They worry that this tool, when put into the wrong hands, could end up causing more damage than good, even if it does end up benefiting the one who learns how to use it.

This book contains proven steps and strategies on how to apply Neuro-Linguistic Programming in all areas of your daily life. It also explains what Neuro-Linguistic Programming is, who can use it, when to use it, its benefits, principles, techniques, and application to different areas of your day-to-day life. This system will improve the way that you perceive the world and give you a wider perspective.

Although Neuro-Linguistic Programming may sound very complex, it's easier to incorporate into your life than you may think. With the aid of this guide, even the beginner can understand the principles and apply them to the way that everyday decisions are made. This can enhance life and give learners a much wider geographical perspective, thus enriching their lives. When these techniques are employed, they open up a whole new way of thinking.

With NLP, you can upgrade your mindset. You can make your memory better, have better communication skills, your intelligence quotient will most likely rank higher the next time you take the test among other skills that you can improve, modify and enhance either on yourself or on someone else.

The following chapters will discuss how to use neuro-linguistic programming and dark psychology techniques to manipulate people and get everything that you want out of them.

NLP is something that helps you to learn more about the people around you. It helps you to learn how to read the body language of those near you, and to get what you want. Any tool, when put in the wrong hands, can be dangerous. But NLP is an effective tool that can do a lot of good, especially for the one who knows how to use it.

It focuses on the practical NLP methods and techniques for persuasion, negotiation, mind control, and manipulation, along with tips to help you understand and avoid dark psychology tactics. It provides simple, straightforward NLP techniques for self-development and enhancing your skills in dealing with the people around you, as well as aids to create a positive and meaningful environment.

The techniques can be used to better business skills, improve interpersonal skills, and discover the formula to live your life your way while striking a balance with the ethics, morals, and principles that you have set for yourself.

This guidebook is going to take some time to explore NLP and all of the parts that come with it. Inside, we are going to explore what NLP is, some of the controversies that come with NLP, and how you need to learn a bit of self-mastery before you stand a chance of learning how to use some of the tools of NLP on other people.

There are so many great benefits that can come from using NLP in your own life. It allows you to learn how to work with other people, how to read what other people are thinking and meaning, and ensures that you are able to get more of what you want and need out of life. When you are ready to learn more about NLP, especially dark NLP, and how to use it in your own life, make sure to check out this guidebook to help you get started.

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CHAPTER 1: WHAT IS NLP AND HOW DOES IT WORK?

NLP stands for Neuro-linguistic Programming and focuses on the language your mind speaks and how it functions. To use an example, have you ever tried to hold a conversation with someone that didn't speak the same language as you? The common picture painted is a couple going out to a fancy French restaurant. You read the menu and believe you'd ordered a soup, but instead, you're treated to a plate of liver and onions.

This scene can be used to explain what goes on within our own unconscious mind. We look at the menu and believe we've put in our order for a well-paying job, a nice house, a fulfilling relationship, a happy family, and toned abs, but if that's not what ended up, then there's been some sort of miscommunication along the way. Within NLP, it's often said that your unconscious mind is the part that sets your goals, while your conscious mind is the part that accomplishes those goals. Your unconscious mind holds your deepest desires, and the truth about what you want in life, but if you don't know how to communicate this properly, then you'll always end up with the wrong menu item.

Take a common vice such as procrastination and understand your unconscious mind only acts this way because it's led to believe that's what you desire. Understanding and studying NLP is like taking that French language course, so you're able to tell the waiter, who is your unconscious mind, what you truly want out of your life. Unless you're able to communicate successfully, you won't be able to match your unconscious and conscious minds together.

NLP is a powerful tool and technique used to speak with yourself, to overcome challenges within your life. These challenges can include fears and phobias, different beliefs, and various other roadblocks created by your mind. Not only does understanding NLP make you a better communicator with yourself, but it also assists you in communicating with others. You'll be able to influence other people in your life in positive ways, so that they could possibly overcome their own fears within their lives. This will also help to better their own lives.

NLP was founded by two different men by studying different therapies and focusing on modeling. They watched and observed others, breaking down the language they would use and the ability to produce a change in others. If there is a result that you would like to duplicate, you can produce the same result by breaking down the interaction. This consists of modeling different language patterns, how someone takes in information and processes it. If a successful person can accomplish amazing feats, then copying their methods should allow you to be just as successful.

We process information in multiple different ways, and a large part of NLP relies on the understanding that so that we can change it. We want to change our view on certain information, whether that be positive or negative. We also tie certain emotions and moments together that can be shifted. Numerous people have used NLP to become a more motivated person in their everyday life, and to be happy overall. Now that we've homed in on what NLP is, we'll give you a few tricks to make it work for you. Before we begin, let's start by saying this is only some quick tricks to help you understand and use NLP to help better your life. In order to get the full extent of NLP information, we'd need an entire book, if not multiple books, to dive that far into it. However, these methods are simple and can help you as fast as you begin to use them.

The only thing that matters within NLP is the truths you hold within yourself; another person's perception means almost nothing. Someone can tell you that your outfit looks gross, and they are operating off their own definition. However, that doesn't mean that your definition must be the exact same; it only matters what you believe. You hold all the power within your belief, and that belief shapes your reality. Believing that your outfit makes you look like a model better serves you in your life and it'll benefit you to believe as such. This is the only bit of information that is useful to you and your life.

NLP also uses certain methods that help you break habits. Let’s say that there's an action like smoking cigarettes or something you do a lot that you want to stop doing, you'd explore the Swish pattern. Despite coming up with a plan to stop smoking, and being motivated at that moment, you end up not following through. Instead, you forget the plan you've created and gone right back to lighting up another. The Swish pattern takes that idea of starting a program, like a journey to stop smoking, and gives it a new view. When you're creating a plan, you tend to think about the experience of trying to quit smoking, instead of visualizing yourself within that experience. On the opposite side, this is the root of trauma and triggers within your life, because people will snap back to that experience as if they are there. It gives you the urge to begin to panic and to act out of pure fear, instead of realizing the new situation at hand. The exact same thing happens when you form a plan to break a habit.

You continually break your plan and fall back into the feeling of disappointment and failure. You're replace the image you continually have of failing in your goals, and you swish it with an image of yourself. Instead of seeing your failures, you see the you that you want to be. This is powerful because most people cannot visualize the outcome and can only see the problem in front of their face.

The swish method allows you to visualize yourself as a non-smoker and to live a happy and healthy life, on the other side of your program.

This is tremendously motivating and gives you a mental image to work towards instead of simply saying you need to quit your bad habits.

If you're only focused on not smoking so much, then you're focusing on smoking, which makes you want to smoke more. Use that mental image of yourself and keep it vague, so you can associate that image with a relatable future you. You can always swish an image of you denying a cigarette or not smoking, and it may work sometimes, but won't work all the time. Visualize yourself as a better you, overall, and you'll find the effects to be amazingly beneficial when it comes to breaking habits.

Visualizing is a powerful tool within NLP if you're feeling unmotivated, depressed, or procrastinating on something that you need to be done. Studies show that when we think of something we enjoy doing and close our eyes, we tend to view that item or action as close, vibrant, large. If you enjoy playing basketball, the visual of a basketball will be bright within your mind. In order to create motivation, you need to use this same idea, but in reverse, by bringing an image closer to you. Close your eyes and try visualizing that item or that action in your mind. Odds are, it seems far away and dimly lit, because you believe it to be out of your reach. Every person visualizes within their mind, whether they think, they do or not. Take the image of that action that you don't enjoy doing and visualize it in your mind. Picture the image brighter, bigger, and more within your reach and control. It may seem silly, but practicing this technique over time will change the way you view the undesired action. No longer will you become depressed at the thought or procrastinate because it feels much more within reach.

Some people rely more on auditory than on visual. However, this works almost the exact same way. When you close your eyes and think about something you hate, what kind of dialogue do you have with yourself? This dialogue can reference your inner dialogue, as well as outer. What kinds of things do you say about it? Now, imagine something you enjoy doing, and compare the two. Typically, your facial expression may even spread into a smile. For example, say you're trying to motivate yourself to clean your kitchen. Try speaking similarly to yourself when thinking of cleaning your kitchen. Change your tone, tell yourself that you enjoy it, and use empowering language. This will change any negative feeling you have to a positive one.

Another positive technique of NLP we'll cover is known as "Anchoring." Anchoring is the process of tying an emotion with an action on the concept, so that you feel that emotion whenever you activate it. For instance, if you're driving in your car and see an ambulance behind you with its lights turned on. It's normal to feel a sense of dread or to feel stressed out.

If you see the lights and hear the siren again even if it's not attached to an ambulance, you'll feel the same sense of dread you had before. The image of that ambulance is anchored to that emotion. Take an example of homework and the feelings you get when looking at an unfinished page.

Those emotions have been tied to that image your entire life. This is also how advertisements take hold of your attention and incite emotion within you.

Commercials with happy family gatherings may make you feel elated, and then the product flashes, allowing you to anchor that elation to the product they're trying to sell.

Using this same logic to assist us can be incredibly beneficial. While you're in the midst of a happy experience, such as an event with friends, or maybe even a concert, start doing something such as snapping your fingers or clapping your hands. Choose an action that you don't do so often, it needs to be unique. When you begin to feel sad or unmotivated, begin to clap your hands or snap your fingers to incite that same emotion. Just as you can create a positive anchor, there are also such things as a negative anchor. Often, people can't get any work done within their bedrooms because of the anchor they've created. You get inside your bed when it's time to sleep, and thus, an anchor is created for sleep. Possibly, your room is where you retreat when you're feeling depressed, so you create a negative anchor for being depressed. The trick is to notice these occurrences and avoid the negative anchors while inciting positive ones.

"Reframing" is also a proven helpful technique within the realm of NLP. Imagine that every moment of your life has a picture snapped of it and put into a single frame.

You feel a certain way when you look at the picture and recall that moment in your life. Reframing speaks of taking a hold of that photo and turning it to the side to get a brand-new view of it.

Before long, you're looking at the photo like you never have before, and what really matters, you've changed how you feel about that moment, as well. For example, there's a moment in your life when you got in trouble for having bad grades in school. Possibly, you walked away from that moment feeling like you were a bad person, and that you weren't good enough to get better grades in school. Try turning the frame and giving this moment in your life some new perspective. Instead of looking at it with a negative view, think of the positives.

Try to get a grasp on how that moment made you stronger, and what you took forward with you to better your life. Instead, view that moment of your life through a better lens and think about how it made you work harder in school and then in your work life once you graduated.

Did it always help to launch you over the line of expectations? Instead of using negative experiences, turn them into positive ones. You could blame your parents, blame your teacher, blame your school, or you could learn from the responsibility and grow.

This technique also teaches you to be grateful for moments that you felt uncomfortable or that you previously viewed with a different setting.

Reframing also works with conversations and miscommunication. Often, we react to the way we perceive a situation or a conversation, only to find out later that we've misrepresented it. Take control of how you feel about moments in your life, and make sure you aren't looking back with regret.

A common NLP method that can be used by anyone and everyone is mirroring. You read a version of this within our persuasion techniques chapter, but mirroring someone firmly falls within the belief of NLP. Mirroring someone's movements creates a sense of friendship, and you become vastly more comfortable with someone who is performing the same movements as you. Without realizing it, you let your guard down, and you begin to connect with the person that is mimicking you. In this way, you can easily build rapport with someone a quick way. Once you've built rapport with someone, you'll find that it's easy to lead their emotions with yours. If you have someone that is speaking quietly and a little more reserved, once you've mirrored them and caught their interest, if you speed up your talking, you'll find the other person is doing the same. You can also perform the opposite or take it in a completely different direction. Either way, you've built rapport and can now build from there.

NLP, in a nutshell, seeks to better your mental health and trick yourself into becoming someone who gets things done. One of the negatives that people say of NLP is that it can be used in an evil way, but it all comes down to what your intentions are.

If you're doing it to lie or deceit, to manipulate someone into liking you, and the like, then you could be venturing down a dangerous path. Everyone wishes to be influenced in some way, whether by a movie or this book. In a way, these pages are influencing you, but in an incredibly positive way.

How to Use Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)

The most fundamental, basic principle of NLP is positive language. No, I'm not suggesting that by keeping a stiff upper lip, that you might be able to ignore all of your problems—rather, this approach is based on science. You see, the brain is incapable of processing negative language. This means that if you were to tell your communicative partner, "Please do not touch me," what their subconscious mind would be hearing is, "Please do touch me."

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